One of the biggest worries parents bring into a family session is whether their kids will actually smile. Not the stiff “say cheese” kind either. Parents want the real smiles. The ones that look exactly like their child at this age and stage. The little grins, the giggles, the missing teeth, the nose crinkles, and the expressions they see every day at home. As a photographer, those are the moments I want too, because genuine smiles always tell the real story of a family so much better than forced ones ever could.
One thing I have learned after years of photographing children is that kids respond best when they feel comfortable. The second a session starts feeling stressful or overly controlled, most little ones pull back. That is why I approach family sessions differently. I do not expect children to sit perfectly still, stare at the camera the entire time, or “perform” for photos. Instead, I spend time getting them to relax, laugh, move around, and interact naturally with the people they love most.
Honestly, making kids smile is one of my favorite parts of what I do. I love getting to know their personalities and figuring out what makes them light up. Some kids are silly right away. Some are shy at first and need a little extra patience. Some want to talk nonstop, and some want to quietly observe for a while before warming up. Years of experience have taught me how to read those personalities quickly and adjust the session so children feel safe and at ease instead of pressured.
A lot of parents are surprised by how little I actually ask children to “smile at the camera.” Real expressions usually happen in between moments. Sometimes it comes from a funny noise, a goofy joke, a game, or letting kids snuggle into mom and dad instead of standing stiffly in place. Some of the happiest images happen when children are simply allowed to be themselves. That comfort is what creates photographs that feel natural instead of posed.
I also always remind parents that they do not need to apologize if their child is energetic, shy, emotional, or wiggly during a session. Kids are kids, and I never expect perfection from them. Experience matters so much when photographing families because working with children requires patience, flexibility, and the ability to pivot quickly without making anyone feel stressed. I want parents to feel like they can actually enjoy the experience instead of worrying the entire time about whether their child is cooperating.
One of the best things parents can do before photos is simply keep the day calm and positive. Children pick up on adult stress very quickly. When sessions are treated like something fun instead of something they have to “get through,” kids usually relax much faster. Trusting your photographer also makes a huge difference. My goal is never just to take smiling photos. It is to create an environment where your children genuinely feel comfortable enough for those smiles to happen naturally.
At the end of the day, the photographs families treasure most are usually the ones that feel real. The laughter, the movement, the cuddles, and the joy all matter far more than perfectly posed smiles. That is why I put so much focus on helping children feel connected, seen, and comfortable during every session. When kids trust the person behind the camera, those genuine smiles almost always follow.
Paula Goforth is a Fort Worth-based photographer specializing in family, newborn, and maternity portraits. Serving Fort Worth, Keller, Southlake, Dallas, and surrounding areas, she creates timeless, heartfelt images that beautifully capture life’s most precious moments.
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